RSS Feed

Keikhlasan Ibu

November 4, 2011 by murtiyarini

Parenting edisi Hari Ibu, Desember 2010

Sampai saat ini, satu tahun berlalu dari saya tulis, air mata masih menetes setiap kali membaca tulisan ini.

Saya pernah menjadi seorang anak. Dan kini menjadi seorang ibu. Saya bisa memahami perasaan anak, sekaligus perasaan ibu.  Ketika saya menjadi anak, saya sangat mengagumi ibu, sangat berterimakasih atas perjuangannya dan ingin memberikan balasan budi baiknya. Di sisin lain, sebagai seorang ibu, saya selalu bertanya apakah anak saya bahagia dengan pola asuh yang kami terapkan selama ini ? Apakah saya tidak memaksakan kehendak, walaupun demi kebaikannya juga. Saya merasa, sebagai ibu tidak berkorban apa-apa, karena semua saya lakukan dengan bahagia.

Keikhlasan ibu

Pagi itu, kunyalakan TV untuk melihat berita. Rutinitas pagi yang kulakukan sambil sarapan bersama Cinta, putriku yang berumur 4 tahun. Sebelumnya Cinta telah puas menonton kartun pagi kesukaannya, jadi tidak terjadi perebutan chanel TV.

Sesaat kemudian kuraih remote mengganti chanel karena sedang break untuk iklan. Sekilas tadi terlihat iklan sebuah produk minyak yang mengklaim sebening kasih ibu. Hmm..berlebihan nggak sih? Tapi namanya juga iklan. Tak apalah jika sedikit berlebihan. Memang pantas kalau sosok ibu melambangkan segala kebaikan, dari beningnya minyak goreng sampai murninya susu sapi kemasan. Bahkan salah satu partai politik dengan musik latar berupa lagu tentang kasih seorang ibu.

Di chanel berikutnya, ada infotaiment, seorang artis sedang menceritakan dengan mata berbinar bagaimana masa kecilnya yang indah dilalui bersama sang mama. Meskipun seorang single parent, tetapi sang mama dapat membesarkan anak-anaknya hingga menjadi artis.

Baru kusadari, hari itu adalah tanggal 22 Desember 2009. Aku hanya mengingat hari ini hari senin, harus mengantar putriku Cinta lebih pagi ke daycare nya, sekaligus agar saya bisa sampai tepat waktu di kantor. Hari senin biasanya jalanan lebih macet dari biasa. Dalam perjalanan, masih sedikit menyesali kenapa aku melupakan hari ini. Mestinya aku bangun dan siap lebih pagi agar tak buru-buru dan melupakan satu ritual tahunan yang menurutku penting. Aku lupa belum menelepon Ibuku.

Biasanya aku berusaha menjadi orang pertama yang menelepon di pagi hari, memulai obrolan dengan menanyakan kabar atau masakan apa hari ini di rumah Ibu, baru kemudian kuucapkan selamat hari ibu pada akhir pembicaraan. Seperti tahun-tahun sebelumnya, Ibu akan mengucapkan terimakasih kembali atas ucapan selamatku itu. Padahal aku menelepon justru untuk mengucapkan terimakasih pada beliau. Tapi itulah Ibu, tak pernah lupa berterimakasih padaku sekecil apapun pemberianku, sementara apa yang telah beliau berikan padaku selama ini sangat banyak, begitu berharga dan tak berbalas.

Segera kucatat dalam agenda ponselku, bahwa aku akan menelpon Ibu nanti malam. Terlambat tak apalah, daripada tidak sama sekali dan menyesal.

Putriku sendiri belum mengerti betul yang dimaksud hari ibu. Tepatnya tanggal berapa juga belum tahu. Dia hanya tau ketika aku mengantarnya ke daycare tadi pagi, gurunya meminta Cinta mengucapkan selamat hari ibu padaku. “Cinta maunya mengucapkan selamat hari mama” protesnya pada sang guru karena memang dia memanggilku Mama. Kami pun tertawa mendengarnya.

Mungkin Cinta heran mengapa hari ini menjadi istimewa? Hampir setiap hari Cinta mempersembahkan karyanya untukku. Setiap hari juga Cinta memeluk dan menciumku, setiap kesempatan kami bersama. Setiap hari juga Cinta menyanyi lagu “I Love You” yang menjadi themesong film Barney kesukaannya. Lantas kenapa juga hari ini begitu istimewa? Bagi Cinta, hari mama adalah setiap hari bisa bersama mama.

Pagi itu juga, puluhan ucapan Hari Ibu datang dari teman-temanku melalui email, facebook maupun twitter. “Selamat hari Ibu, jeng..semoga semakin pinter merawat anak dan suami”…”Dimasakin apa hari ini sama suami? Selamat hari ibu ya..”…dan kalimat-kalimat serupa. Sebuah ucapan yang aku sendiri belum mengucapkannya pada ibuku hari ini. Ya, hari ini memang sosok ibu begitu diistimewakan.

Hari ini juga, berbagai media cetak yang terbit hari itu membahas betapa seorang wanita mengorbankan waktu dan tenaganya dalam melakukan multiperan sebagai ibu-istri dan wanita karier. Disebutkan juga cerita beberapa artis yang bisa mengorbankan kariernya demi membesarkan anak mereka. Mendadak aku teringat salah satu pesan di wall facebook untukku hari ini dari l sahabatku yang kebetulan masih lajang “Terimakasih ya Rien.. kamu dan mama-mama lainnya adalah pahlawan pembangunan bangsa karena pengorbanannya sangat besar dalam mendidik anak-anak bangsa. Ingin sekali aku segera merasakan kebanggaan menjadi mama”

Tapi…kok mendadak aku merasa ada yang aneh dengan kalimat –kalimat tadi. Rasanya ucapan yang kuterima kok berlebihan dari apa yang telah kulakukan. Masa sih aku sudah sedemikian berjasa dan berkorban? Sudah sebanyak itukah yang kulakukan? Satu kata yang terasa janggal adalah “berkorban” Telah berkorban apakah aku?

 

Sambil merenungi, mencoba memahami kebenaran kalimat itu. tidak Tahukah mereka apa yang sesungguhnya kurasakan selama 4 tahun menjadi mama. Bahwa waktu yang kuhabiskan dengan anakku karena memang aku menginginkan kebersamaan itu. Bahwa tenaga yang kukeluarkan untuk bermain dengannya karena aku menyukainya. Bahwa tarikan tangannya minta dibuatkan susu malam hari saat terlelap telah membuatku terasa berharga dan dibutuhkan. Dan mengajaknya tertawa dalah niatku untuk menghilangkan semula lelah dalam hari itu. Segala pikiran yang kucurahkan untuk mendidik anakku adalah berawal dari harapanku agar kelak mereka menjadi pribadi yang bisa menjalankan kehidupan sebaik-baiknya.

Tahukah mereka? Bahwa didalam perjalananku menjadi mama sebenarnya terdapat ketidaknyamanan yang dirasakan putriku, ketidaksabaranku menghadapi pertanyaannya yang cerdas, memaksakan kehendak untuk mengikuti pilihan-pilihanku, membebaninya dengan harapan dan cita-cita tinggi, memamerkan kemampuan anak sementara anakku malu dan tidak menyukainya…dan hampir disetiap apa yang kulakukan untuk anakku adalah cerminan keinginanku agar kelak menjadi pribadi unggul.

Ohh Tuhan..apakah keinginan-keinginanku itu dapat membuatnya bahagia? Bukan kali pertama aku hatiku berkecamuk, berada antara niat baik dan rasa bersalah. Bila kelak Cinta mengerti, aku ingin meminta maaf untuk itu.. Mama akan mencari jalan terbaik Nak, agar dalam proses mendidik dan membesarkanmu tidak terlalu banyak menyakiti perasaanmu.

Dan pantaskah aku disebut berkorban sementara aku tidak merasa lelah, atau rugi ? Aku memang memperjuangkan kebaikan putriku, tapi aku tidak merasa ada bagian diriku yang kukorbankan, karena aku bahagia dan ikhlas menjadi mama.

Ini adalah perasaan pribadiku, setelah merasa jengah menerima begitu banyaknya kalimat bermakna agung itu. Tapi disudut hati yang lain, tak dapat kubendung keinginanku untuk segera mengucapakan terimakasih pada ibu.

 

Akhirnya, menjelang makan siang kuangkat HP dan menelepon Ibu. Rupanya ibu juga lupa kalau hari itu adalah hari istimewanya, jika saja kakakku tidak mengunjunginya tadi pagi. Setelah sekitar 10 menit berbicara, kuucapkan apa yang ingin kusampaikan dari pagi tadi “Ibu, terimakasih atas perjuangan ibu…selamat hari ibu” Cuma itu yang bisa kukatakan. Hilang rangkaian kalimat panjang yang telah kurencanakan karena menahan haru di dada.

 

Dan dengan nada bergetar dan lirih, kudengar ibu mengatakan “Terimakasih, Nduk“ Oh..ibuu…kuusap setetes air diujung mataku

Tak sabar kumenunggu sore hari saat untuk menjemput Cinta. Aku ingin segera mengatakan padanya “Terimakasih sayang, atas kehadiranmu untukku” sambil memeluknya erat.

 



78 Comments »

  1. More Help says:

    I simply want to tell you that I am just newbie to weblog and honestly liked this blog site. Almost certainly I’m going to bookmark your site . You really have excellent stories. Regards for sharing with us your web page.

  2. I do trust all the ideas you have offered for your post. They’re really convincing and will definitely work. Still, the posts are very quick for beginners. May you please prolong them a little from subsequent time? Thank you for the post.

  3. I simply could not leave your web site before suggesting that I really enjoyed the standard info an individual provide in your visitors? Is gonna be back continuously to inspect new posts

  4. I truly appreciate this post. I’ve been looking all over for this! Thank goodness I found it on Bing. You have made my day! Thx again!

  5. I love the efforts you have put in this, appreciate it for all the great posts.

  6. Hello there! Do you know if they make any plugins to help with SEO? I’m trying to get my blog to rank for some targeted keywords but I’m not seeing very good results. If you know of any please share. Kudos!

  7. I think you have observed some very interesting details , thanks for the post.

  8. Hello my loved one! I want to say that this post is awesome, nice written and come with approximately all vital infos. I’d like to look extra posts like this.

  9. Fashion says:

    Heya i’m for the first time here. I came across this board and I find It truly useful & it helped me out much. I hope to give something back and aid others like you aided me.

  10. Its like you read my mind! You appear to know a lot about this, like you wrote the book in it or something. I think that you can do with some pics to drive the message home a bit, but instead of that, this is wonderful blog. A fantastic read. I’ll certainly be back.

  11. naser says:

    My brother recommended I would possibly like this website. He was totally right. This post actually made my day. You can not consider simply how so much time I had spent for this info! Thank you!

  12. kampret says:

    Someone necessarily assist to make seriously posts I would state. This is the very first time I frequented your website page and so far? I amazed with the research you made to create this actual submit incredible. Wonderful task!

  13. News says:

    My brother suggested I might like this website. He was totally right. This post actually made my day. You can not imagine just how much time I had spent for this information! Thanks!

  14. News says:

    I’ve recently started a website, the info you offer on this website has helped me tremendously. Thanks for all of your time & work. “If you would know strength and patience, welcome the company of trees.” by Hal Borland.

  15. Some really excellent posts on this internet site, thank you for contribution. “He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals.” by Benjamin Franklin.

  16. News says:

    I conceive you have observed some very interesting points , thankyou for the post.

  17. What i do not realize is in fact how you are no longer actually a lot more well-appreciated than you may be now. You’re very intelligent. You recognize thus considerably relating to this subject, produced me personally imagine it from a lot of various angles. Its like men and women aren’t fascinated until it’s something to do with Lady gaga! Your own stuffs great. Always deal with it up!

  18. Fashion says:

    Usually I don’t learn article on blogs, but I would like to say that this write-up very compelled me to try and do so! Your writing taste has been amazed me. Thanks, very great article.

  19. News says:

    F*ckin’ amazing things here. I’m very satisfied to look your article. Thank you a lot and i’m looking forward to touch you. Will you please drop me a e-mail?

  20. I dugg some of you post as I thought they were very beneficial very beneficial

  21. As soon as I found this internet site I went on reddit to share some of the love with them.

  22. I’ve been absent for a while, but now I remember why I used to love this blog. Thank you, I’ll try and check back more frequently. How frequently you update your website?

  23. You actually make it seem so easy with your presentation but I find this matter to be really something which I think I would never understand. It seems too complicated and very broad for me. I’m looking forward for your next post, I’ll try to get the hang of it!

  24. News says:

    Fantastic web site. Lots of useful information here. I’m sending it to a few buddies ans additionally sharing in delicious. And certainly, thanks to your effort!

  25. There may be noticeably a bundle to find out about this. I assume you made certain nice points in features also.

  26. You are my aspiration , I have few web logs and occasionally run out from to post .

  27. Fashion says:

    I love the efforts you have put in this, regards for all the great content.

  28. The following time I learn a blog, I hope that it doesnt disappoint me as much as this one. I mean, I know it was my choice to learn, but I truly thought youd have one thing interesting to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about one thing that you might repair should you werent too busy in search of attention.

  29. renovation says:

    Very efficiently written article. It will be beneficial to anyone who utilizes it, including myself. Keep up the good work – looking forward to more posts.

  30. I truly appreciate this post. I have been looking everywhere for this! Thank goodness I found it on Bing. You’ve made my day! Thanks again!

  31. I think this is one of the most vital information for me. And i’m satisfied reading your article. But should statement on few common things, The site taste is great, the articles is in point of fact nice : D. Just right task, cheers

  32. Thanks for sharing excellent informations. Your web site is very cool. I’m impressed by the details that you have on this site. It reveals how nicely you understand this subject. Bookmarked this web page, will come back for more articles. You, my friend, ROCK! I found simply the info I already searched all over the place and just could not come across. What a perfect web-site.

  33. Simply wanna comment that you have a very decent web site , I like the style and design it really stands out.

  34. cooking says:

    Valuable information. Lucky me I found your site unintentionally, and I’m shocked why this twist of fate did not happened earlier! I bookmarked it.

  35. Its excellent as your other articles : D, appreciate it for posting . “A lost battle is a battle one thinks one has lost.” by Ferdinand Foch.

  36. Hey There. I found your blog using msn. This is a very well written article. I’ll be sure to bookmark it and return to read more of your useful info. Thanks for the post. I’ll certainly return.

  37. Travel says:

    Some truly prize posts on this website , saved to fav.

  38. Business says:

    I went over this website and I think you have a lot of wonderful information, saved to bookmarks (:.

  39. Business says:

    I just wanted to develop a brief comment to thank you for the splendid tips you are showing at this site. My time-consuming internet search has at the end been paid with brilliant suggestions to write about with my colleagues. I would declare that most of us site visitors actually are definitely endowed to dwell in a good site with so many lovely professionals with very beneficial advice. I feel extremely happy to have used your entire website page and look forward to some more awesome minutes reading here. Thanks again for a lot of things.

  40. I have read some just right stuff here. Definitely value bookmarking for revisiting. I surprise how so much attempt you place to make such a great informative web site.

  41. I must voice my love for your kindness in support of all those that need help on this particular concern. Your very own commitment to passing the solution all around ended up being especially significant and have all the time helped ladies just like me to reach their desired goals. Your own important facts means a whole lot to me and extremely more to my fellow workers. Many thanks; from all of us.

  42. Just want to say your article is as surprising. The clarity in your post is simply nice and i could assume you are an expert on this subject. Fine with your permission allow me to grab your feed to keep updated with forthcoming post. Thanks a million and please carry on the gratifying work.

  43. you’re in reality a good webmaster. The website loading velocity is incredible. It kind of feels that you are doing any distinctive trick. Furthermore, The contents are masterwork. you’ve performed a fantastic job in this subject!

  44. Autos says:

    Hi there, You’ve done a great job. I will certainly digg it and personally recommend to my friends. I’m confident they’ll be benefited from this website.

  45. Education says:

    Some really wonderful posts on this website, thanks for contribution. “Such evil deeds could religion prompt.” by Lucretius.

  46. Hey, you used to write great, but the last several posts have been kinda boring¡K I miss your great writings. Past several posts are just a little bit out of track! come on!

  47. Law Firm says:

    Hello, you used to write magnificent, but the last several posts have been kinda boring¡K I miss your super writings. Past several posts are just a little out of track! come on!

  48. Web Design says:

    This is really interesting, You’re a very skilled blogger. I’ve joined your rss feed and look forward to seeking more of your fantastic post. Also, I’ve shared your web site in my social networks!

  49. I’m excited to find this website. I need to to thank you for ones time due to this wonderful read!! I definitely enjoyed every part of it and I have you book-marked to look at new stuff in your website.

  50. Men Health says:

    hello!,I really like your writing very a lot! proportion we be in contact extra approximately your post on AOL? I need an expert on this area to unravel my problem. Maybe that’s you! Having a look forward to peer you.

  51. You have brought up a very good points , thankyou for the post.

  52. Vacation says:

    Good write-up, I am normal visitor of one¡¦s site, maintain up the nice operate, and It’s going to be a regular visitor for a lengthy time.

  53. It’s mostly unthinkable to come across well-aware men and women on this matter, however you look like you are familiar with the things that you’re posting on! Excellent

  54. I have been exploring for a little for any high-quality articles or blog posts on this kind of area . Exploring in Yahoo I at last stumbled upon this site. Reading this information So i am happy to convey that I’ve an incredibly good uncanny feeling I discovered just what I needed. I most certainly will make certain to do not forget this website and give it a look on a constant basis.

  55. Business says:

    My wife and i have been now fulfilled that Peter managed to finish up his studies from your precious recommendations he was given in your web pages. It’s not at all simplistic to simply find yourself giving away instructions that some others may have been selling. We know we have got the writer to thank for that. The main explanations you made, the straightforward site navigation, the friendships you will assist to create – it’s got many impressive, and it is helping our son in addition to us imagine that the situation is satisfying, which is certainly really mandatory. Thank you for the whole lot!

  56. Very nice post. I just stumbled upon your blog and wished to say that I’ve really enjoyed surfing around your blog posts. After all I will be subscribing to your feed and I hope you write again soon!

  57. Business USA says:

    Hiya, I’m really glad I’ve found this info. Today bloggers publish just about gossips and web and this is really irritating. A good site with interesting content, this is what I need. Thanks for keeping this site, I will be visiting it. Do you do newsletters? Can not find it.

  58. Fantastic goods from you, man. I’ve understand your stuff previous to and you’re just extremely fantastic. I really like what you have acquired here, certainly like what you are saying and the way in which you say it. You make it entertaining and you still care for to keep it smart. I can not wait to read much more from you. This is actually a terrific web site.

  59. Education says:

    I gotta bookmark this web site it seems very useful very helpful

  60. My Profile says:

    Highly helpful details you’ll have remarked, warm regards for posting.

  61. this post says:

    I merely hope to reveal to you that I am new to writing a blog and utterly adored your review. Very possible I am most likely to store your blog post . You truly have fabulous article material. Admire it for swapping with us your current blog webpage

  62. Hello there, just became alert to your blog through Google, and found that it is really informative. I’m gonna watch out for brussels. I’ll be grateful if you continue this in future. A lot of people will be benefited from your writing. Cheers!

  63. Education says:

    Excellent blog here! Also your website loads up fast! What host are you using? Can I get your affiliate link to your host? I wish my web site loaded up as quickly as yours lol

  64. You really make it seem so easy with your presentation however I find this topic to be actually something that I think I would never understand. It seems too complex and extremely broad for me. I am having a look forward in your next publish, I will attempt to get the grasp of it!

  65. I haven¡¦t checked in here for a while because I thought it was getting boring, but the last few posts are great quality so I guess I will add you back to my everyday bloglist. You deserve it my friend :)

  66. Airlines says:

    It is really a great and useful piece of information. I am satisfied that you simply shared this helpful information with us. Please keep us informed like this. Thanks for sharing.

  67. Thank you for some other wonderful article. Where else may just anybody get that kind of info in such a perfect method of writing? I have a presentation subsequent week, and I am on the look for such info.

  68. internet says:

    Unbelievably stimulating knowledge you’ll have stated, thanks so much for adding.

  69. Excellent post. I was checking constantly this blog and I am impressed! Extremely helpful information specifically the last part :) I care for such information a lot. I was looking for this particular information for a very long time. Thank you and good luck.

  70. I have been absent for a while, but now I remember why I used to love this website. Thank you, I¡¦ll try and check back more often. How frequently you update your site?

  71. Magnificent website. A lot of useful info here. I am sending it to some friends ans also sharing in delicious. And certainly, thanks to your sweat!

  72. I just intend to show you that I am new to wordpress blogging and really valued your review. Very likely I am prone to bookmark your blog post . You simply have superb article information. Appreciate it for share-out with us your main site post

  73. Education says:

    Wonderful website. A lot of helpful information here. I am sending it to some pals ans also sharing in delicious. And certainly, thank you on your effort!

  74. Health News says:

    Helpful info. Lucky me I found your site by accident, and I am stunned why this accident didn’t happened in advance! I bookmarked it.

  75. I’m excited to discover this website. I need to to thank you for your time due to this wonderful read!! I definitely appreciated every bit of it and I have you bookmarked to look at new things on your web site.

  76. Hi, i think that i saw you visited my website so i came to “return the favor”.I am trying to find things to improve my site!I suppose its ok to use some of your ideas!!

  77. Pet World says:

    You are a very capable person!

  78. The very root of your writing while appearing agreeable originally, did not really settle perfectly with me after some time. Somewhere throughout the sentences you were able to make me a believer unfortunately only for a while. I however have a problem with your jumps in logic and you would do well to fill in those breaks. If you actually can accomplish that, I would undoubtedly be impressed.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *